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Writer's pictureKarenhappuch Ibiara

Navigating Love. Recognizing and Rejecting Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics.

Updated: Dec 27, 2023

Hello my beautiful wildflowers, I hope you are drinking your water, focused on your goals, minding your busineses and Praising the lord! let's talk about those men who've got us feeling like we're stuck in a game of emotional hot potato. Whether you are feeling unsupported, unsure if you are in a committed relationship with him or not, if you have a future togther or not, It's time to apply some good ol' kingdom principles and bid adieu to the wrong man. If hes doing the following, girls, he needs to go, so Let that man go!


1. Consistency Counts

If you have the kind of man, that one day he's charming and attentive, the next he's distant and unresponsive. This kind of hot-and-cold behavior is a red flag that shouldn't be ignored. Ever feel like you need a crystal ball to predict his next move? The Bible says a righteous man walks in integrity (Proverbs 20:7), so if he's as inconsistent as British weather, it's time to wave him goodbye.


2. Lack of Respect 

Whether it's belittling your opinions, disregarding your feelings, or dismissing your accomplishments, a man who doesn't respect you doesn't deserve a place in your life.If he's not treating you like the queen you are, it's hasta la vista, baby! Ephesians 5:33 reminds us that a goodly man deserves respect, and if he ain't giving you that, well, he's gotta go!


3. Talk the Talk

Communication is key, folks. If he's as elusive as Bigfoot, it's time to find someone who can hold a conversation longer than a Snapchat streak. 1 Peter 3:7 tells us to live with our partners in an understanding way, so if he's more MIA than the Loch Ness Monster, it's time to move on.


4. Stability, Please

We're not asking for a human rock, but emotional stability is, like, kind of important. If he's got more mood swings than a kid on a sugar rush, it might be time to bid him "adieu."


5. In the Same Boat

Paul wasn't kidding when he said to avoid being unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14). If he's more "Netflix and chill" than "church and chill," it's time to set sail and find someone who's on the same page as you, spiritually and all.


6. Time Bandit

If he's as punctual as a sloth on a Sunday morning, yet faster than Usain bolt when it comes to catching that Man Utd Vs Mancity game or WWE pay per view, it might be time to wave him goodbye. A goodly man respects your time and shows up when he says he will, because, after all, Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us there's a time for everything.


7. Support System? More Like Disappear-O-Matic

If he's nowhere to be found when you need a shoulder to lean on, it might be time to find a better support system. Proverbs 18:24 reminds us that a true friend sticks closer than a brother, and that's the kind of support you deserve.


8. Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word

Elton John might have sung about it, but in a healthy relationship, apologies shouldn't feel like pulling teeth. A godly man knows how to sincerely say sorry and make amends, just like in Colossians 3:13.


9. Mystery Man

If you're more confused about his intentions than a toddler at a buffet, it might be time to seek clarity elsewhere. A godly man is open and honest about his feelings and his future – no guesswork required, thank you!


10. Silent Treatment Specialist

If he's giving you the silent treatment more often than an old radio, it might be time to find someone who knows how to communicate like a grown-up. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us that a gentle answer turns away wrath, and that's the kind of maturity you deserve in a partner.


11. Love Bombing

If he's showering you with excessive affection, gifts, and flattery early in the relationship, watch out! This could be a sign that he's not being genuine and is using manipulative tactics to keep you around. Telling you all these sweet things that he thinks you may want to hear or that he thinks you'd would hope for in the relationship, only to trick you into staying with him and not seek anyone else. Be careful my wildflowers and stay alert for this sign, if you see it please leave while you still have the chance!


12.Controlling Behavior

 If he's trying to dictate who you can see, where you can go, or what you can do, it's time to say "no thanks" and show him the door.


So, let's raise a glass to saying "buh-bye" to the wrong man and holding out for the right one. Remember, letting go of the wrong dude isn't just about freeing up your social calendar – it's about making room for the guy who's gonna treat you like the treasure you are. Keep the faith, keep the humor, and keep your sights set on the one who's truly worth the wait. Good luck out there ladies.

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